یکی از عوامل مؤثر بر روابط همسران، رابطه آنها با خانواده های طرف مقابل است. مشکلاتی که در این زمینه وجود دارد ممکن است منجر به اختلاف بین زن و شوهر شود و در ایران به دلیل نزدیکتر شدن روابط خانوادگی این عوارض شدیدتر است. اینها برخی از رایج ترین الگوهای ارتباط با خانواده همسران هستند که ممکن است به اختلاف نظر منجر شود.
۱٫ Frequent and unplanned visits with the families of the parties: One of the family’s plagues in Iran is the frequent, unnecessary and unplanned visits of couples and their families, which are sometimes repeated many times during the week. Especially during the marriage, when for many eager young people, there is practically no limit to going to a party at their spouse’s parents’ house, and sometimes this party continues for consecutive days! This way of life may be an alarm for the existence of differences and problems between the couple and in the future, and may extend the scope of family relations to future interventions in married life.
۲٫ Misplaced counseling with families: Although counseling on any issue, especially at the beginning of cohabitation, too much counseling opens up others’ privacy and your spouse thinks that there is a trace of thoughts in decision making. His wife’s family is there and she feels insecure. Especially when you reveal the private secrets of your life to them.
Sometimes parents, without wanting to ruin their child’s life, offer methods and strategies that may be less logical because they are based on emotions. Everyone should know that the best counselor in any married life is the spouse
۳٫ Imposing a way of life on a young couple: In some parts of Iran where traditional life prevails, when a young girl marries a boy, families, under the pretext of their inexperience, force them to live with them in order to change the way of life. Let them learn! But the question is, if the girl and the boy do not know the way of life, why do not they allow the mother to give these teachings to the girl and then get married? Why should they choose a girl at a young age as a bride who knows nothing about life?
معنی اختصاصی :
در برخی از نقاط ایران که زندگی سنتی حاکم است، وقتی دختر جوانی با پسری ازدواج می کند، خانواده ها به بهانه بی تجربگی، آنها را مجبور می کنند تا با آنها زندگی کنند تا سبک زندگی را تغییر دهند. بگذار یاد بگیرند! اما سوال اینجاست که اگر دختر و پسر راه و رسم زندگی را نمی دانند چرا اجازه نمی دهند مادر این آموزش ها را به دختر بدهد و بعد ازدواج کند؟ چرا باید دختری را در سنین پایین به عنوان عروس انتخاب کنند که از زندگی چیزی نمی داند؟
